My husband has been driving me crazy......but that has been going on for over the 30 years we have been married. After he lost his job & ended up being the end of his career, I thought he was going through the same depression I was going through when I lost my engineering career after 15 years. My pdoc was willing to treat him along with my psychologist. They thought if they could treat him, they would be helping me with my problems. Over the several years that he was unemployed, he was denied disability & instead of going after it, he said he wasn't depressed & wasn't disabled so he wouldn't go after the disability. He had always lived in his own world but there were times when I was actually wondering if he wasn't dealing with the beginnings of altzhiemers. He was always forgetting things & losing things. I could tell him something one day & by the next it was as if I hadn't said anything. He has gotten to the point where he is like a child & can only do things that have become a pattern & if something new is thrown at him, he doesn't know what to do. It wasn't until a few weeks ago at my pdoc appointment that he suggested that my husband may be dealing with adult ADD. He is starting up a clinical trial, treating adult ADD. He gave me a form for my husband to fill out & when we took it to my psychologist (to pass on to my pdoc), he looked it over & said that it does look like it might me adult ADD.

I would love to think that it might be adult ADD rather than the possibility of the beginnings of altzheimers. I know that his actions make me so mad. When it feels like I am being ignored, I get very angry. When I have to comtinually tell him the same thing over & over, I get very angry. When he asks me questions that he should know the answers to, I get very angry. I don't want to be his mother & that is exactly what it feels like. I have since done some internet research on adult ADD. I do know that medication can help & it also requires therapy for him to learn how to deal with being in real life given the fact that ADD is effecting it. The main thing I expect out of him is that he gets the treatment that will help him & also he needs to take the therapy seriously & work on being able to live his daily life in the world that is around him without using the ADD as an excuse to continue living in his own world. I will not be expecting anything more out of him than he has expected out of my treatment for my depression, anxiety, & the PTSD I am now going through. I know that he just blew off the therapy when he was dealing with the depression, so he better not blow this off once we know what we are dealing with. Being tolerant is much easier when I see that he is taking the situation seriously & really working on understanding his situation. It is then alot easier to stop the anger at that point, but when he refuses to take the situation seriously & blows off any help, that is the point where I tend to take it all personally & loose my temper.

Debbie