Well, I have very low self-esteem. I am first to admit that. And i used to be small. I'm curves. I one was an hourglass. but I'm overweight, about the same as you, hamster. I recently lost a bunch of weight due to my illness, but I'm still BMI 28 (which, by the way, only goes off of your height and weight and not your age, gender, bone mass, muscle mass, or anything like that....)

But, my husband says I'm sexy and I'm not in any type of shape. Not only am I overweight, but it's that jelly type fat. Regardless, he still says I'm sexy. He's not one to just say something. He's a very blunt person. If he doesn't like the outfit I'm wearing, he will say. If I need to fix my hair or whatever, he will say so. So, it's not idle flattery or "I have to say it, she's my wife."

So really, it's just the guy you're with. I'm sure a lot of guys will look at me and say I'm ugly. But, he doesn't and his opinion is all that matters in that area.