My husband says the sexiest thing about a woman is her confidence. He tells me even though I have gained 50lbs he is still sexually attracted to me because he is in love with me and my body. For me it is hard to show confidence at this weight because when I look in the mirror I dont see myself. I see a fat lady. He tries his hardest to make me comfortable and I am getting to the point that I let him see my body again. Trying to regain some cofidence because I may just be stuck this way forever. I do believe that our weight bothers us way more than it bothers them.

I believe some of the others are right. If this could possibly just be a one night stand, you dont want to lose what you do have for a little bit of pleasure. On the other hand if this could turn out to be something. Falling in love with a friend is the way to go. I married my best friend and I couldnt imagine it being any other way. I can just be myself with him at all times. We can sit in a silent room all night long and be completely comfortable. No awkward silence just silence and its nice.