I agree with fayerody.......to get back under your own control, you need to keep away from them completely.....& using caller ID to avoid them is the place to start.....& don't let them come & visit (which I hope they wouldn't do without talking to you first).

You need to feel like YOU are in control of your own life & not feel guilty because of the way they make you feel. You can't feel guilty for staying away from them either....you owe it to yourself & your family. You don't own anything to your parents. Once you gain enough confidence & feel like you are back in control of your life, they you can consider letting them back in a little at a time. If they continue making you feel the way they are, then back away from them again & let them know that until they stop treating you the way they are, they aren't welcome in your life. You have to be pretty tough to stand up against them, but it is important to your own furure to take care of yourself.

I hope this helps you realize that it is ok to stand up for yourself,
Debbie