Neither. Your husband is your ex husband for a clear reason, you both broke up, you aren't suitable for eachother. It hurts to hear that, but you have to be cruel to be kind.

Your boyfriend seems like my ex, as soon as she said she wanted a break, it turns out that's not what she really meant, and that she actually broke up with me but lied.

Work on yourself and find someone who loves you for who you really are.