Cazadorleon,

You are so strong to stay so determined not to continue going back with that lady. You have a very healthy control of your own life & listening to the first counsellor that told you that she had some serious & significant emotional issues was probably the best thing you did for yourself. At least his opinion help reinforce the experiences you ended up going through with her.

The letter you shared about the other lady & the suggestion you gave her to have a plan....reminded me of the movie "sleeping with the enemy". You provided her with the most valuable suggestion she could have ever been given. You have also been good at taking your own valuable logical advice about handling your own life dealing with the lady you through would be your life long partner......it is good that you aren't willing to continue floundering in a relationship that wouldn't work. I am sure it is not that easy to go on with life after getting involved in a real close relationship, but it sounds like you are grounded well in reality & don't continue on thinking that something that will work out when in reality, you are better off out of that relationship.

Keep following what your mind is telling you & don't get suckered into a relationship that will only cause heartache.......you are a very wise person & to be quite honest, you would make a great husband. It isn't many guys who are that in touch with themselves & in control of what they know is best for their own life. Keep true to yourself & you may someday find someone that deserves you. Don't settle for less & I am sure from your words, you won't.

Debbie