I have to agree with some of the folks on here. D assessing your daughters like he was assessing you is just creepy and wrong. I wouldn't have let him anywhere near my girls after that. But that's just me.

Don't put so much stalk in what they said. I think for some reason you prefer stark honesty in the way men perceive you. At some point it just is going to wear you down and make you feel this bad about yourself. NO ONE should ever make you feel bad about yourself and you shouldn't let them do that to you. You've made great strides in getting down to the weight you are now, and are continuing to do it in a healthy fashion. Who do you really want to impress? Them or yourself? They don't deserve it.