Not sure what you haven't figured out
You are both showing up in the group
Have you both visited group since you accepted invitation?
When there are enough numbers, we can turn it in to a 'proper' forum
For now, you can read, post, add pics within the group
And I will do individual messages when I can, will pick one person at a time from the group, so you need to check in regularly to see if you have a message . Hope that helps.....