Hmmmm I don't know your situation and your T's qualifications and reasons... but I know MY T is MY T... and he would not consider doing what your T has done. You need your T to advocate for YOU... and if there happens to be a conflict with you and your spouse, how can the T advocate for both of you?? It just doesn't work.

IDK who's idea it was that your spouse see T on his own without you as in couples counseling.. but it was a BAD idea IMO. Part of this is also the EXACT reason of what you are experiencing.. it's undermining those hours and hours of trust you have built in a relationship with your T.

Tell your T you don't like it. Tell your spouse to find someone else, please. TC