Oh if I only could have seen the issues you described in my H before we got married not after. That sounds so much like me and my H. It will soon built resentment and you'll be even more miserable. This doesn't sound like the right guy for you. I hate to say that because the dating would I'm sure is not an easy place to be. But don't settle for less because thats all that seems availiable. I know you have a lot of time invested but it's easier to get away before you have 5 , 10, 15 years invested and issues that have grown bigger and stronger.