This is a very good point. The trouble is, that where I was coming from, I just took the therapists' word for the new "right" way to behave. Because I probably had a (undiagnosed/untreatable at the time) personality disorder I had no way to understand the other things you wrote about.

I continued trying therapy, though, because I continued having problems. I have tried other things, too -- spirituality, religion, etc. I've done a lot of my own research along the way.

I'm certainly willing, and have, to take responsibility for myself. But I'm not seeing anything, in public at least, from the profession taking responsibility for ineffective and sometimes iatrogenic therapies and therapists. Sure, we all make mistakes. But it has been harmful to me when therapists made suggestions that they thought would help my internal psyche (such as express your feelings) without alerting me to the potential problems. That may sound weird or odd -- but then that was probably a part of my personality disorder. I had shut down feelings, as a way of becoming socialized as a child. When therapy encouraged me to unleash my feelings, they unleashed me to become subject to social rejection which I had no way to understand.

Sure, it was my problem to begin with. But when I learned in therapy to behave in other ways, without a way to understand the effect of my actions on others -- something just doesn't seem quite kosher here, that it's all on me although the consequences certainly are. Or is that just my misguided understanding again?