But it has been harmful to me when therapists made suggestions that they thought would help my internal psyche (such as express your feelings) without alerting me to the potential problems. ... I had shut down feelings, as a way of becoming socialized as a child. When therapy encouraged me to unleash my feelings, they unleashed me to become subject to social rejection which I had no way to understand.

Sure, it was my problem to begin with. But when I learned in therapy to behave in other ways, without a way to understand the effect of my actions on others -- something just doesn't seem quite kosher here, that it's all on me although the consequences certainly are. Or is that just my misguided understanding again?