Hi, and welcome back.

I think first and foremost, you and your husband must come to an understanding and agreement, as opposed to working this individually. Stand together and it will work.

After that has happened, he should deal with his mother knowing he has your backup. It's his mother, his family, his primary responsibility to do what's best for his now family.

Remember when talking with your husband to come to a workable solution that it is his family he loves, and express to him that you know that, but that you're speaking as the advocate for the family he now has...

Good luck and let us know!

KD