You ever see that movie CHASING AMY? No? Yes? Well, I believe the character Banky (played by actor Jason Lee) explains the sex and communication differences between men and women.

Banky says, "Chicks never help you out. They never tell you what to do." Banky says he prefers to "let her know where to go, and what the status is. You gotta handle it like CNN and the Weather Channel -- constant updates."

desirae, you can change your communication style towards your hubby without embarrassing him. Try directing your hubby to your needs with constant updates. Saying simple words like "lower/higher, left/right, harder/softer, more/less, yes/no, and faster/slower" will be a good start, if you aren't already doing that.