My advice is for both of you to work on your issues in therapy before you get married. You may love each other, and it can be real, but a codependent relationship isn't healthy. There are several problems that can happen. One or both of you may feel locked into unhealthy patterns that make it hard to grow. One of you may progress past the other one, who may or may not be interested in change (at that time, or ever), and you would be mismatched and one could drag the other down. Or this could happen in cycles - one starts to get better and the other drags them down, then you switch roles and repeat the pattern again. There are many possibilities for abuse even though neither of you would think of being abusive now. Your children will learn unhealthy relationship patterns rather than healthy ones and repeat the cycle with their own families.

I would strongly urge you both to learn about codependency and work on your own healing first, and then get married if that is still the right thing.

One more thing - your religion and values are very important to you, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that, but please make your decisions with consideration for your own needs and abilities. I have made major life decisions out of feeling pressured by other people and by what I thought was expected of me (religiously/culturally). Those did not turn out to be the best decisions for me. You can read about my experiences there if you look up "Rapunzel's Story" in the personal stories section. Or feel free to PM me if you like.

Rap