I was so glad to read all of y'alls posts. Nice to know I am not alone... The guilt alone stinks. when you say the wrong thing or the right thing at the wrong time and It is held against you. I love my spouse dearly and will do anything to see him happy and love himself...heck I would be thrilled at this point if he tolerated himself . I tell him all the time I long for the day he loves himself as much as I love him.