Thanks Bee. After the "fat" kid incident, I was very clear about what will be tolerated from her in the future. She has basically stopped talking to me at family functions--which is really not so bad. This is my MIL's agenda. She is trying to push my husband into inviting Brother and SIL for a visit which, in most likelihood, neither party wants! MIL wants it her way and she has very dramatic ways in which she tries to exert control. My husband has a hard time standing up to her.