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Originally Posted by trdleblue
I am curious as to how those out there fight the urge to quit t? I have never had that urge as strong as I do now, and I don't think I will do it immediately, but I am scared that at one point I will just walk out and never return. When you have a whole life to change how do you start? Is change even possible? I am beginning to wonder about myself. How can I trust someone when I never have before? Perhaps it's too late, and perhaps I don't want change enough.
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Hi trdleblue, you sound overwhelmed and lost. How long have you been seeing your T? I think it takes a long time, not weeks or months but more like years to delve into the root of problems and then to embark on a healing or corrective action to change behavior. I have thought numerous times about quitting. What keeps me going back is that I'm comfortable with my T and feel that he understands me. I have been to other T's yrs ago and they did not "get me". You ask "When you have a whole life to change how do you start?" All I could say to that is to start at the most critical problem you face on a daily basis. The problem that holds you back from functioning. You cannot take on everything at once. Have you asked your T what problem he/she feels you need to address first? Concentrate on one thing at a time. I have many problems myself and I'm glad you raised this question today because it is something that I should consider too. How can you trust someone? I have issues with that one too. No answers on this. You wonder if it is too late? I don't think so. You sound like you want to change but it is soooo hard to do. Hopefully that is where our T's will come in and offer guidance. Good luck!