Well, I did try to have a very serious chat with him the other day while we we're taking a drive, and every time I mentioned how I was unhappy, unsatisfied, and that I wanted things to change, he called me stupid over and over. I mentioned that he drank to much, he was obsessed with his job, that he never did anything with the kids, and that he treated me like %#@&#!. He just blamed me saying I deserved it because I was stupid. The conversation ended with me weeping to myself, and so hurt that I wish I would have left his *** on the side of the highway. I told him that I'm really considering leaving and he said "oh well, do you need help packing". Trust me, he doesn't give a %#@&#!, there would be no way possible to get him to a counselor......he's just as ready to break it as I am, I think.