Speaking from experience. I want you to remember two things. He is a coward (because only cowards treat loved ones like dirt) and cowards will resort to lying and questionable tactics. The other thing is, you are not a coward so do not give in to manipulation. One day, you will understand why I say this.

My first advise is go to a bank and get a bank account in your name and have any statements go to a friend or family who will keep it a secret. Start putting money away. Go to a woman's shelter and make your fears known. If he is not hitting you, there is no physical evidence and you need something incase he threatens you or tries to take the kids. Stay calm, especially infront of the kids. Do not tell him you are leaving when you are alone or with just the kids. Remember, he is not going to want to lose you (for selfish reasons) and may try to manipulate you to stay. If he stalks you, report it immediately. Use a counsellor if you need to mediate or just for yourself. Who knows, maybe your marraige could be saved?! See your doctor because this will cause a lot of stress. Cry because this will be scarey terrain for you, but know that you are not alone and you will get through this. Listen to well meaning friends and family, but decide for yourself because your choice is the right one. Get mad because this shouldn't happen to such a wonderful person as you. Forgive yourself because this isn't your fault. Know that things will get better and you will smile brightly once more.

As you go through this, keep your thoughts to yourself when you are with him, but tell all to your confidants. Friends may not understand, but they want to be there for you and talking is the best way to release your fears and work through this.

Life will be fine again, and we are here for you