I got out by way of domestic violence agencies and crisis center agencies. They are nation wide and they don't force people to leave. They offer counseling and help in understanding the laws, and the inside scoop on abuse and how to get out when you are ready.

When and if their clients are ready they help them plan how to do it safely and have relocation shelters kind of like an under ground railroad. No one knows where the shelters are until they are in the leaving process. Some times depending on the persons situation they will move them a town or two away from the abuse and other times they will move their cleints to complete other states.

When children are involved they help with the custody hearings and so on..