I remember my T ( I have control issues too ) telling me when I asked her to exlain a schema" thats my job to focus on that not yours"
Come to think of it I think she did me a favour of not letting me try to " run " the session and being detached when talking about the different modes instead of my issues. You know a little less theory and a little more feeling. Every therapist also in ST is different but itīs all about the relationship how you react to her and they way she handles that. It doesnīt only have to be touchy feeling emphasy. ( Does she know you well enough yet?) ...point is when my T said that I got in the angry child mode and have an authentic response. When she does something else I would go in the vunurable child mode. Talking about the theory in it selve does not do anything. It basically just avoiding stuff by interlectualizing. Maybe when transference become an issue it will work. It seems like it is early days. Hang in there and donīt give up just yet. Also ST therapit seems quite commited and wonīt just terminate after four sessions. They have chosen this orientation for people with the exact issues you are decribing and mine wich were different but still quite treatment resistant.
Oh and I think we all have this vulnerable child mode. Itīs in there somewhere...