Sorry to hear that about your dad...have you ventured to sit down next to him or near him and ask??? AND to stay... and ask... and not take HOW he says what he says as an attack? Men just don't often learn how to show or FEEL emotions (you know!)... maybe ask if there's something you can do.. or do together to make you both feel better... I've read some posts of yours, and chatted too... you can probably figure out some good words to say... I think sticking to it and not slunking away... not taking his attitude personally (even if he says it's your fault)... try keeping an even voice... who knows? maybe something good will happen.. If not (sigh) then you're no worse off??? Good wishes!