I have done a lot of reading on codependency, even labeling myself as such in the past, but now I believe this is a catch label for all sorts of relationship problems. Is it codependent to be thinking of the other's needs, to want to share, to feel a bit insecure from time to time? NO! Also, it's not codependent when an unbalanced relationship leads ot insecurity on the part of the one who is more committed. Often the loving partner is labeled "codependent" because of the other's indifference! Too many things are labeled codependent which are just normal relationship dynamics.
That's just my 2 cents!
Patty