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Old Oct 12, 2012, 02:38 PM
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Originally Posted by Mike_J View Post
I don't think there is some magic answer that would fit every situation. I would make sure that you talk to your therapist about this, and that you are aware of your emotions.

But it would be sort of a shame if either of you had to adjust your life outside of therapy, because of your therapy.
When we saw each other in the class the first time I was ok with it. We talked about it at my appt after the spin class. She asked me how I felt about seeing her in class. I told her it didn't bother me at all however I used to feel anxious about possibly seeing her in public. That anxiety isn't there anymore.....I also asked her how she felt seeing me and if I was invading her space. She said she had no problems with it and hasn't shown any behavior that says otherwise.

Since then I still don't feel anxious but I do look forward to seeing her. She does 'mother me' in some ways but she is that way to other people in general in the spin class as well. She has loaned me one of her towels to use during the class and is bringing some clip type shoes for me to try during class.

I certainly feel like my head is above water and I don't feel like my therapy is being effected. I had a lot of transference a year ago, left therapy with her and since I've been back seeing her I feel like I don't have transference (ok maybe just a little but nothing painfully strong etc..). I trust her and feel like I can tell her anything as hard as it may be to sometimes.

Just seeing if there's something I'm not thinking about...
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