That is true, Patty. Codependency by definition is an unhealthy dependency, where one person keeps someone else dependent in order to satisfy some needs of their own (like my mother). The label is often overused.

Renew, maybe we should back up. Would you like to discuss the symptoms in your relationship that have been defined as codependency? If they actually are not problems for you, then maybe you have a healthy, non-codependent relationship afterall.