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That is true, Patty. Codependency by definition is an unhealthy dependency, where one person keeps someone else dependent in order to satisfy some needs of their own (like my mother). The label is often overused.

Renew, maybe we should back up. Would you like to discuss the symptoms in your relationship that have been defined as codependency? If they actually are not problems for you, then maybe you have a healthy, non-codependent relationship afterall.

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Yeah should back up. I feel like people always want to destroy me every time I admit my faults.. claiming i am full of pride and am a fake. that is not the case.

What has been defined as codependency is wanting to make everything perfect for her and failing. Wishing t o fix her situation to protect her in many ways that probably are God's job.. Worrying that if I cannot be there sometimes that she is not ok... Worrying that if I lose her, I also am not ok..