Thanks for sharing that. It takes courage to admit your faults.

Hmm, you sound quite a bit like my husband, whose heart is in the right place but who is also overprotective and in some ways in trying to provide everything, he undermines my ability to learn to take care of myself. He also finds himself drained because he gives up everything he wants in order to give me what he thinks I need, or what he thinks will keep him from losing me. He is a good person, and you are a good person too, but as you recognize, if you try to make everything perfect for her, you will fail because perfection is an unreachable ideal.

You can support her in the work that she needs to do to fix her own situation (with God's help). If she can learn to be okay and stand on her own, then you will not need to worry when you can't be there (and sometimes you can't, and that is okay). If you can be okay by yourself then you can be stronger for her too.

How do you think that you could work on those things?