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Originally Posted by Leed
Please try to forgive this poor woman. She obviously has a mental disorder, and I'm sure she hasn't chosen to live like this. I would imagine she lives in fear of being "found out" one day -- and for you to CONFRONT her might send her over the edge!!!
What harm is she doing to you? These stories she's telling do you NO harm at all. None. So what is the big deal? You can decide to accept them as true or not. But try to be a friend to her as she seems like a very giving person, and I really doubt that it's ALL because she's trying to "buy" someone's friendship. I just don't believe that. I believe that she IS basically a good person and much of this giving is from the heart.
So what would you do if someone confronted you and called you a liar?
I would guess that you would be extremely upset to say the least. It sounds like this lady has had a rough life, so I say leave her alone, and just try to either be her friend, or dump her -- which would of course hurt her, but if you can't abide by her stories then stay away from her. But I don't think she means to hurt anyone.
I wish you the very best! Take care & God bless. Hugs, Lee 
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It is hard to explain but for some reason the fact she can't help it makes it worse for me.
I KNOW I shouldn't be angry with her and I KNOW I should have empathy because she has a mental illness. And I feel so guilty about not being able to forgive her.
I also feel bad because she knows that I am mentally ill (she even knows I have been hospitalized) and that has never stopped her from wanting to be my friend and she has never judged me for it -- at least to my face. And I am judging her for being mentally ill basically.
Lying makes it hard to have empathy for someone but I try to remember people don't wake up one day and decide to be compulsive liars. I think her childhood was very traumatizing.