((((((Abbidy))))))

I'm sorry to hear that you are having to deal with this situation, I understand how you feel, as I have been there. In my opinion, you should have a sit down talk with your husband and let him know how you feel. Let him know that you do not feel that it is appropriate for his mother to call your home five times a day, make rude comments about your mother, and ask about your sex life. Let him know that this makes you really uncomfortable and it needs to stop.

While he cannot control his mother's actions, having him talk to her about all of this would probably have more of an impact on her than if you talked to her yourself. Before he has a talk with her, though, you need to make sure that he feels the same way that you do on these issues, or him talking to her about it is not going to do any good.

If your husband cannot/won't agree with you, and cannot have the talk with his mother, then you should do it. Let her know that you want to talk to her, and invite her over for lunch. Over lunch, tell her that when she calls five times a day and asks questions about your sex life and makes comments about your mother you feel that it is inappropriate, and you would appreciate it if she would please stop.

Let her know that if she refuses to stop her rude behavior, you will stop answering her phone calls every single time she calls. Tell her that she will have to call before she comes over to your home, to make sure that she is not interferring with something that you have scheduled, and tell her that if she continues to make comments/ ask questions that are not appropriate you will no longer dignify them with an answer.

I know it is hard, but in order for it to stop, sometimes you have to let her know these things so that she is aware that you have boundaries, and that you will not allow her to cross them. She needs to see that you are a strong willed person, just as she is, and this is your home and your marriage and family to deal with, not hers.

In other words, try to find a way to nicely tell her to butt out.

You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Take Care,
Angel