My T is helping me learn to recognize the awful messages I tell myself (I'm stupid, I'm pathetic) with things that are more true (I'm confused, I need help).

It's okay to need help. Being triggered is awful, and sometimes in the middle of being triggered we need that safe person to remind us how to get through it.

Can you call T for help??

For me, the beginning of getting grounded is finding the smallest piece of "now" that I can. I usually start by listening for six sounds. It slows me down and makes me pay attention. Right now I can hear my son on the phone upstairs, my husband breathing, my kittens running, distant traffic, the click click of the ceiling fan, the fridge humming, the wind in the trees. It doesn't fix being triggered when I do it, but it usually slows me down enough to start to remember how to fix it.

If you can't reach T, maybe we can help you