MKAC,

Maybe you could think of it as a two step process... 1st step you send it to him...2nd step you talk about it.. those two steps don't have to be done at the same time and there could be lots of time in between...

but with my xT and me there was this unsaid dynamic that I didn't really understand until someone posted a link to an article that was very helpful to me... I would tell or email my T something very shameful... he would respond okay at the time usually helping me not feel so bad about it..he would say we should talk more about it... before the next session I would have regret about telling... I would never speak of it again and he would follow my lead and never bring it up either.... and I would convince myself I was stupid for telling him and that apparently it wasnt really a big deal or he would have brought it up... I was just making it that way...being a drama queen...

All of that just to say...as long as you and your T have better communication and that he will help you talk about it or bring it back up at some time..or atleast ask you if you want to talk about it...then you don't have to give it to him and talk about it at the same time...

but if you are researching it then maybe you are ready to talk about it.