I think it's really hard to find the line between pushing ourselves too hard and doing the (hard and sucky) work that we need to do to heal.

I agree with RTS though...I found that for me, if something was pushing at me (or is pushing at me) there was a reason. I think we do have an internal wisdom that guides us in the direction we need to go.

The first time I *hinted* at the worst part of my SA was a FULL YEAR before I actually talked about it. Literally, I hinted one August and talked about it the next August. Even though T "knew" during all of that time in the middle. I just wasn't ready.

So it doesn't have to happen all at once. It's okay to take a step without knowing for sure what the next step is going to be.