[quote=nightsky;2639931](trigger for mention of sui)

My. T. Finally. Got. It.

And HE FINALLY GETS IT. He said something shifted, and he "woke up" and that he sees everything completely differently now. He said he was a bad therapist this winter and spring, and that the part that makes him sad is that I am the person who really got hurt by it.

He's apologized, and owned his part, and admitted that he made some big, serious mistakes.

He told me the other day that I had been through a lot this year, that all of the badness of what was happening had been dumped on me, and that he hated that and wishes he could redo it. He said that's the thing that makes him the saddest of all, and the most regretful, and that he wants to do whatever we need to do to "clean up the mess".
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This is the BEST news I have heard in a long, long time. I am so glad that your T has admitted he made some serious mistakes with you. This is HUGE and I mean HUGE. Professionals (and I'm referring to dr.'s, teachers, etc.) today are so worried about lawsuits (and rightfully so) that they cannot admit to any mistakes. How can any of us learn right from wrong, if there is no one to set an example for us? Clearly, many of us seeking therapy have made mistakes with others (including ourselves). We need to forgive our T's for their mistakes (I can't believe I just said that since I was blaming mine for something trivial...you have caught me with your post). I am so happy for you. Now you will really be able to get his insights on what is really going on with you.

Congratulations to your T for standing up and doing the right thing! AND Congratulations to YOU Nightsky for hanging in there and NOT giving up on a great T!!