Well I'm not currently married but I will offer my thoughts on what I think "crisis" would mean. I think it means to address major problems that YOU
believe are affecting your relationship now. Such as the porn addiction you mentioned. Please know that the examples I'm going to suggest are just to serve the purpose of giving you an idea of what I think T is looking for. I am in therapy myself and have no knowledge of what you have gone through in your life nor do I presume you would identify with anything here, this is purely an example, such as: Do you "think" that you have contributed in any way to his porn addiction (by pushing him away for instance)? I'm NOT saying you did at all but if you have any thoughts on this I think that might be worth mentioning (I think it is natural to wonder what we may have done - if anything - to contribute to our partner's addiction). Or, let's say you feel that you think your husband has been pushing YOU away because he is tired of being blamed for the infertility issue. Maybe you are angry with your husband for not doing this or that? Maybe you "think" he is angry with you for not doing this or that? Maybe he is not angry with you at all and just needs a release or escape from other problems he is having.

The questions are to raise your thoughts and relay your perceptions on what is going on. This is all exploratory to help narrow down the field to the cause of your husband's behavior. It is not about "blaming" anyone for anything but I think it is about feeling blame or ascribing it to someone. This matter will not likely be resolved by answering 5 questions but it will help the T and your husband to see your perspective of the whole matter. I think it is important for you to assist in participating. If you are uncomfortable in your answers being discussed in a group session, then I would definitely raise this with your husband and ask that he discuss it privately with T. Maybe he could have a private session just for this matter alone? Is that possible?

Did you stop going to your T because of his relationship with your husband's T? Do you think it would help if you see a different T?
Best wishes to you.