Thanks for the response! Yeah there definitely seems to be a link. Majority off my abusers were men, there was just one female err i dont eve knoe the rigt word, she was more off a bystander used to be more off a conrroller and watcher its hard to explain. She did go too far and try it on with me once but she was pretty drunk and wasnt mean to me, to be honest it was probablu the nicest shes ever been to me nut was fokkwed up by her usual threats the next mprning. Wow this is gettin a bit deep lol just thought itd help if i explained a bit more. But basically i dont think she made me resent any woman but her, whereas there wre a few men so its like its more generalised. I still trust and feel comfortably around all womab (bar her obvipusly) does that help at all?