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Old Oct 13, 2012, 07:40 PM
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((((Geez))),

Oh dear, you have to trace this trigger to where it bothers you specifically, and it is there. Once you get to that you can find "resolve" for it, sometimes it takes some time, but I can relate to how you feel right now, I have been there myself.

When something like this happens it is usually something that is deep in our subconscious and that is linked to our own inability to cope or believe in ourselves in the past, could go way back for you. But rest asured, this "can" be resolved. I had this happen to me, certain people would "trigger" me to my core and I could not figure out where it came from. Then I began to realize it was due to how my older sister treated me all my life really, but it began when I was extremely small. I got to the point where I could not even hear my sisters voice without triggering badly.

Well, after a lot of time and work in therapy, I have actually been able to "talk" to my sister and that is a big deal. I was able to untie the gridlock that was happening about her and many things that would "trigger" me that came from how she devalued me many times in my life.

This has something to do with that kind of experience for you I think. You have to figure it out and work "through" it, but I can tell you geez, you are "not" unworthy, this is only a deep "self misunderstanding" that you can really work through. And, often when we come across this kind of situation where someone triggers us, it actually brings a real opportunity for personal growth.

So, don't let yourself feed "into" this feeling of "failure" because this "can" be resolved. You are still working "through" things, it just takes time geez.

(((Big Reassuring Hugs)))

Open Eyes
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