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Originally Posted by Readytostop
Wow  ...it never occurred to me that H's T may be asking about my contributing to H turning to porn  .... I've spent the last year of therapy with xT convincing me that I am not responsible for my H's porn addiction and that H started this addiction at 13 years old way before me... now I'm not sure how to respond at all to this or even if I'm willing to...  |
maybe thats the point the T is trying to make, that he and only he made the choice. by asking him to come to you and the two of you talk about what made him turn to porn will one open communication between you two and two make the point that nothing you could have done made him open that porn book, go on porn sights...
like an alcoholic who at first places blame on others instead of their own actions for the drinking maybe your husband is still stuck in blaming other reasons for his problem. one of the fastest ways to make a point is a hands on activity.