Hi again, Amalie!

I understand how hard it is to go out when you feel worthless...it is one of the things that has helped me continue treatment for my condition. I remember one night when I turned down an invitation from a friend to go hang with him and his band, and sit in (play) some (I used to be a professional musician). When it was time to go, though, I just sat in my chair...I was paralysed! Now, there are very few things I would rather do than have a few beers and play the blues, but I just couldn't!

So, I keep plugging along, going to support groups, doctors, therapists, you name it! Things will never be like they used to be for me, but I'm about to the point where I can begin to do social activities again. So, there's hope for me yet, and for you, too!

You might also think about doing some things in a less threatening environment than a bar (NOT a good place for the insecure, as you have found). I don't what is available where you live, but try community activities, church, volunteering, that sort of thing. Volunteering is particularly good, you wind up feeling great about yourself even if no one is hitting on you. I realize all those things probably sound cheezy...but they can be much more affirming than hanging in bars trying to get picked up (I know, I wasted too many decades doing that)!

Smile!
DJ