Well, I don't want to look like a homewrecker here. The wife was already gone before we started this last round. He is pretty slick, you know, as these types of men usually are. They had a pretty despicable "marriage," and there was nothing holy about their union. He cheated on his girlfriend at the time with current wife. He claims that the wife was just supposed to be a fling, but ended up pressuring him to leave the girl, and harrassing the girl with calls, lying about birth control, etc. etc. I never did any such thing. I got the heck out and away, but somehow got all tangled back up in the mess a year later. Yes, I will definitely be asking myself what would make me fall for a man like this. Even if he was technically divorced, he would've still been emotionally unavailable, as he is to this day. Once I start my new job, I think I will start planning a move to a nicer, bigger place minus this freeloading jerk. I'll dump him onto his mommy where he should've gone in the first place.