A lot of Christian groups don't do that. Go to one meeting...if's it's obvious it's not for you walk out. As a general rule though this isn't always true, Catholic, Lutheran, Orthodox, Episcopalians have a tendancy of being more open to others...they often have more outreach groups and charities that are geared towards anyone who needs the help regardless of their background while Baptist, Methodist have a tendancy of being more conservative in their beliefs and saying that they want to "save" you. I am not saying that as a criticism against any churches..that is just my observation and it's not going to be true with all churches. I know it's hard, but you can't base your experiences at one or two church groups to what they are all like. You might just have to look for a while for a group that works for you. Don't get frustrated. It may take a while, but you'll find one.....whether it be AA or a church group or what. I'm sorry you've had such bad experiences.