What do you think crisis in a marriage would mean? Not being able to trust H with my feelings or withholding things from him.

The other difficult point for me is that I know once I write these out for H that he will most likely discuss them in group. How would you feel about that?

My H was in group for awhile. I was not worried about what he said about me, our relationship, or our family. Anything that helps him heal. If I'm part of the problem then I'd rather H find out so we can fix it.

Is anyone else's H in individual or group therapy at the same time as you were? Were you able to handle the "chaos" of the emotions therapy brings up with both of you in therapy?

Our whole family is in individual therapy, occasionally group and family therapy. My H and I usually sit in the others sessions (we call bs faster then T). We both are flies on the wall in each others therapy. He says messed up things about me and vice versa. We also kick each other out when we feel like it. A lot of times we go to the park and talk about Therapy after. I find H knows me better then me. Some times we work on relationship issues but usually we do individuality work. There are times that our T's kick our partners out but we can calm each other fast.