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Originally Posted by girlwithbrownhair
Hey, relax....I don't think you're a home wrecker. Yea, dump the guy. But be aware that this may be a pattern for you. Watch the signals you send to men: they can sniff out our pain. (Trust me, I've been there. Predators love blood.) So when you date again, be strong. Stay strong. I advise you be aware and don't give them too much information and don't badmouth your last boyfriend lest you inadvertently send out signals you like that kind of guy...Me, I flirt with the charmers...but I don't date them. They're charming for a reason. Real men are too busy living life to worry about what people think of them...so do the same. Those kind are worth waiting for. Best to ya.
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You're spot on with this one, at least for me. The charmers! Man you nailed that. I did not realize for a long time that that's all they really are, and as you said, they're charming for a reason. My current bf--real man--is definitely not concerned with what others think of how he looks/what he likes/etc. (something I could learn a thing or two from him). It took the "emotional vampires" to get out of my system before I could see that, though.
Aquarius, I understand the need to defend yourself. I don't do it with my bf, but I have the same problem in regards to my family---overexplaining in hopes they'll "get me" when they never have and don't really try that hard to, IMHO.
to all of us