My H is going to group therapy for his addiction to porn. He is seeing the clinical director at the practice of my xT. So in short we were seeing therapists in the same practice. His T is my xT's boss. I quit psychodynamic therapy (via email..i know...) with xT a couple of months ago.

My H's T gave him this assignment. Ask me to list 5 ways that he or I contribute to the crisis in our marriage. I don't know what his T means by crisis. What do you think crisis in a marriage would mean? I think of it as big not everyday things that happen like for us..the disclosure of his porn addiction and our prior fertility issues... But was thinking of responding to it as if crisis means things that make me question my H's love/committment

The other difficult point for me is that I know once I write these out for H that he will most likely discuss them in group. How would you feel about that?

Is anyone else's H in individual or group therapy at the same time as you were? Were you able to handle the "chaos" of the emotions therapy brings up with both of you in therapy?