You don't need to be told you are a good mother or wife to know you are one. Yes its nice for people to reaffirm that they appreciate you and if this isn't happening in your marriage or not often enough i would speak with your husband about the matter. Yes we can't change people but sometimes when two people get settled into a way of life things like this can sometimes be overlooked and he might just need a gentle nudge in the right direction. Im sure he wants to please you just as much as you wish to please him - all couples fight, its natural, if its becoming a real problem then its not too late to do something about it. If marriage counselling is an option i would give it a go but from the information you're giving me it sounds like you might just need a few more heart to hearts and work on improving communication. I hope you can find a way to speak up about this issue to your husband. All the best.