I don't know how long you've been talking to your therapist. Or if you've had one before. But if you feel a lack of empathy or understanding with her that can be a pretty big barrier to getting the right counseling. In a way empathy is a form of trust; and you need that for successful counseling. Your comments on being from another part of the country seems to indicate you feel she is missing some cultural or social norms for your area; which can also create a gap in understanding. If you haven't had many counselors in your life maybe you don't know what type of counselor is best for you. You might want to see if you can find someone who you feel can relate to you and understand you better. Have you considered a substance abuse counselor or group?

For me even when I'm around people I feel totally alone because there is this huge part of me (I don't think) they can understand. Its very isolating. And whatever relationship we have to each other has a superficialness to it. Also the feeling of loneliness is compounded after a brake up.