The responses are all great advice. In my marriage of 20 years, however, my husband never, I mean NEVER, would hear me regarding his mother's behavior toward me. I suffered insults and alienation for about ten year, and then a light bulb came on and said "hey" you don't have to be around them...so I didn't!
I hope your hubby is receptive to placing your relationship first. Mine was not!
Patty