A lot of it seems like a keep it to yourself type thing.

The taking it to your heart to heal makes a lot of sense to me though.

Today is 4 years since my mom's untimely death (she wsa only 49). I'v taken it to my head (thought about it).

The hard part is accepting in my heart that she is gone, and many things have changed in negative ways when she died.

If I only accept it in my head "yep, she died" that does nothing to address the underlying feelings, and until I can deal with those feelings, I can never truly heal.