I failed to be social with many of my attempts and here is one more time how it went. I usually get social by chatting about random stuff and all. (I suck at gossip or even any type of argument, I just get neutral POV and defensive in some cases). Here's one incident that happened to me.

I was walking the street and met one of my classmate near the busstop. He usually don't talk much with me and usually acts like give n take and in the air type friend. This time he did stopped and provoked me to answer some of the question related to my life, he was not interested in my answers but rather was just buying more time. I realized that he was just asking this stuff to use me as timepass till his bus arrives. By the time I realized this, he got the bus and he got into it and just said - okay then good luck with life dude.

I did realized over the course, I was being used like this on many places. Its just that people around me are not that good then again this happens in corporate world all the time. It's that I know this and I don't get angry about it because everyone including my family is doing this.

If I show anger or denial to play with them, they act as if something wrong is with me. They act as if i should play with their tune all the time. I once replied - "what do i get by entertaining you or talk to you for your timepass?" . Facial expression from people who got that answer from me was quite shocking.

I guess i breached some unspoken teritory and breaked social law of not directly talking about it. It's like society is moving on such unspoken rules where we use each other and should not openly talk about it, we can avoid being used but can't retaliate as it will make us look paranoid or disturbed to such social people.

What do you think? How do you avoid being used by others? Is there any pointers for me to improve?