Lilac, you don't sound obsessed. I apologize if it sounded as if I was dismissing your concerns about your weight. I'll accept you calling yourself overweight, or large, but I have an objection to the term "fat" as it is often used in a derogatory fashion.
I also apologize if I gave you the impression I thought you were bulimic or anorexic. I was trying to help you feel better about the way you look, but I was rather clumsy in the way I went about it.
Anyway, if you want to talk, I'm here for you.
(((Lilac)))